A Shrek after all...
I wish people would get over their urges to comment unnecessarily, for the sake of being a 'kepoh'. It's flattering when it's done out of concern, it even saves lives sometime, but please, I was always happy if they would spare us some slacks and keep the cheap comments within your toilet doors. Honest, constructive comments/ideas please.
When you are fat, they nagged that you looked ugly and blubber-y. They laughed out loud, called you a hippo (in my case - a Shrek :)
When you are thin, they said you are sick, suspected you contracted AIDS, anorexic, bulimic, etc
When you walk to the shop instead of taking your car, they call you kedekut (nak tumpang pegi lunch la tu...)
When a lady was raped, they snorted as if she was guilty in buka aurat here-and-there
When you made a pot of tea which is too sweet, they said, 'oii, nak bunuh orang ke?'
... etc, etc, etc
Well, human mechanics are very interesting. In a way, I think that it is genuinely important these people are opinionated, and have a say. I myself, do not wish to be a dead log and just watch the world goes by without having any thoughts/ideas. My work is all about rationales, ideas, thoughts, visions. See, people around us are mostly visionaries. We may argue the quality of the visions, but visions nonetheless.
Give me some ideas, an idea... give me a bad idea.
Ideas, in the bigger picture, solves problems (if any), or simply make things work for the better (or worse, depending on the angle).
Then I suppose, the example above of the petty comments/remarks by my colleagues would have some truth in them. It did motivate me to lose weight in the first place. Currently, I have now watch myself to not to lose any more weight. It does not necessarily allows me to eat whatever I want, but I am more mindful now, and keeping the focus off weight loss is somewhat enlightening, and life is more graceful with chocolates, ice-creams etc here-and-there.
My colleagues and close friends have meant well, and I am grateful they are around my belt - a constant reminder, a self-check. And it's free. I appreciate constructive comments, and takes time to understand and digest, and thank them if appropriate.
Today, I got a new one, 'eh, kau makin hitam, lah' (from sneaking out for office-lunch-swim).
What do I do with that? Pakai Pure 'n Lovely ka, Loreal Whitening Cream ka? hahahhah
Well, I suppose these comments are somewhat passing and momentary. Could just be peptalks. Need to always remember to listen to your heart, and do it for self, not to satisfy others.